Occasionally speaking to your parents
September 29th 2007 09:47
Ah parents, you live with them, you have varying communication with them and in some cases you never even know them. Given the variation in the level of interaction we have with them, I was wondering if there's a median for our relations with our parents or if we're really all over the place. Well, it seems there's an average relationship type that most of us subscribe to so go figure.
Here are the features that most of our relations with our parents seem to have;
-We love them and we will defend them if anyone were to speak ill of them.
-We do not tell them everything. Quite often they are the last to know or are kept out of the loop completely unless it's something major and we can't think of any other options.
-Our relations are much more casual with them then they were, say, 50 years ago. Rather than 'Mother' or 'Father' it's 'Mum' or 'Dad' and if we manage to have dinner together, chances are it's take away or required a microwave to prepare.
Okay, so the affection that we feel for them certainly is no surprise to anyone. Assuming nothing terribly traumatic happened while we were growing up, we saw them as awesome people that loved and cared for us. And again, bar any freak occurrences this is still the view we have of them.
But they are our parents so there is a generation gap & they are authority figures so this does create a boundary when it comes to discussion topics. I mean, if you're talking about a friend's experiment with drugs the other night at your local bar, you're not exactly going to be swapping stories with your mum, are you? Well, at least not the majority of you. Yet if things get really screwed up , and you've called all your friends and their advice has been a bit shithouse as has that of all the other family members you trust, it may just be time to go back to those loving providers you call your parents.
And so this brings us to the casualness of our relationship with the parental figures. I guess it stands to reason that if everything else in our world has become more laid back (think clothes, means of addressing your boss) then it was only a matter of time until this filtered through to the way business gets done in the family. Yes we do respect them, but we also develop deafness when asked to clean our rooms and have funny ways of forgetting curfews but remembering we need money. But hey, the times they are 'a changing.
So there you go, in a nutshell and speaking really generally, that's the way interactions go between us and our parents. We're a little ungrateful, we don't always get along, but in the end we find a way to make it across the finish line. Splendid stuff.
Here are the features that most of our relations with our parents seem to have;
-We love them and we will defend them if anyone were to speak ill of them.
-We do not tell them everything. Quite often they are the last to know or are kept out of the loop completely unless it's something major and we can't think of any other options.
Okay, so the affection that we feel for them certainly is no surprise to anyone. Assuming nothing terribly traumatic happened while we were growing up, we saw them as awesome people that loved and cared for us. And again, bar any freak occurrences this is still the view we have of them.
But they are our parents so there is a generation gap & they are authority figures so this does create a boundary when it comes to discussion topics. I mean, if you're talking about a friend's experiment with drugs the other night at your local bar, you're not exactly going to be swapping stories with your mum, are you? Well, at least not the majority of you. Yet if things get really screwed up , and you've called all your friends and their advice has been a bit shithouse as has that of all the other family members you trust, it may just be time to go back to those loving providers you call your parents.
And so this brings us to the casualness of our relationship with the parental figures. I guess it stands to reason that if everything else in our world has become more laid back (think clothes, means of addressing your boss) then it was only a matter of time until this filtered through to the way business gets done in the family. Yes we do respect them, but we also develop deafness when asked to clean our rooms and have funny ways of forgetting curfews but remembering we need money. But hey, the times they are 'a changing.
So there you go, in a nutshell and speaking really generally, that's the way interactions go between us and our parents. We're a little ungrateful, we don't always get along, but in the end we find a way to make it across the finish line. Splendid stuff.
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